MOLLIFY: the olive branch

The “DO ANGRY WELL” Series.  Part 3 of 3   I was getting gas in Old Town San Diego and the pumps have tv screens for advertisements, music or ‘fun facts’. I look at the screen and it says “Word Of The Day” and the word MOLLIFY appeared. Mollify: to appease the anger or anxiety of (someone); […]

DO I LIKE MYSELF WHEN I HAVE A TEMPER? (part 2 of Do Angry Well)

    “Karen, you have a temper.” (ack, definitely not something I wanted to hear..) KT: But, but… err uhh…. have you seen my sparkly bright eyes and big smile? I think you’re mistaking me for someone else. “There’s nothing wrong with having a temper. Accept it. Be aware of it.” KT: Let’s do the math. Soooo, you’re saying that 90% […]

DO ANGRY WELL (part one)

Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. – Aristotle Anger is fascinating. For many years […]

“What are you hearing me say?”

  The best part of coaching are those magical moments. We’re engaged in dialogue, the conversation is flowing and I’ll point out important information based on what the individual is verbalizing.   So, what exactly is the magical moment? After I share my thoughts, I ask, “Ok, so what did you hear me say?” The best […]

WHEN YOU TALK TO YOURSELF (and why it’s a good idea)

    “What I like best about cell phones is that I can talk to myself in the car now and nobody thinks it’s weird.” ― Ron Brackin, Author It’s quite common now to watch people walking down the street talking to, what appears to be, no one. They have this little piece of technologically […]


  ENABLING IN THE WORKPLACE In the last article I shared my personal reflections and experience surrounding the topic of enabling. Let’s translate this hurdle of enabling into the workplace. What does it look like when someone begins to enable? I want you to fill in the blanks before you continue reading. Humor me, pretend […]


    Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the topic of enabling. What I write in this article is my perception and perspective. I’m not a medical expert and do not have university psychological training. I’m reflecting on the word “enabling” based on my experience and my conduct. I’ve grown in leaps and bounds but on […]