Silence Your Self-Critic

Silence Your Self-Critic I was in the 2nd grade and my teacher was teaching us about impromptu speaking.  She wrote questions on pieces of paper and put it in a container.  Each one of us took one of the pieces and had a few minutes to prepare our thoughts to speak in...

COVID-19: not one fear, but three

In the midst of this pandemic we are not facing one fear, but three:  the fear of loss, the fear of scarcity and the fear of isolation.  I enjoy engaging in thought-provoking conversations with my dad who’s 87 years old.  Realistically, my parents are in the...

Henrietta Wears A Different Hat

[Always choose the best for yourself.  Make decisions that complement who you are.] “Today I shall wear my red hat.”  Henrietta runs her fingers over the brim of her fedora.  As she looks in the mirror, she places it on her head and smiles brightly. Her...

The Story Of The Bear And The Little Girl

A little girl was walking in the forest and heard a loud growl. She was suddenly met by a big bear. “Stop!” she called out, “You’re scaring me.” She took a deep breath and asked, “Are you my friend?” The bear walked towards her, “Look into my eyes, little one, what do...

THEY JUDGE ME. THEY JUDGE ME NOT.

 Judging others is really easy to do. A person I’m quite close to recently said to me, “I feel like you’re judging me.”    I paused, quickly asked myself if there was any truth in that phrase, and, with sadness, responded, “Yes,...

THEY LIKE ME. THEY LIKE ME NOT.

[1]  BOTTOM LINE:  It was quite liberating when I first realized I only had a 50/50 chance of someone liking me. It doesn’t matter how much I want someone to like me (or worse, EVERYONE to like me), that decision is out of my control. It’s perfectly ok if...

YOUR INNER HANDSOME

Your Inner-Handsome [a/k/a] really really really ridiculously good looking… INNER-BEAUTY? The word “inner-beauty” doesn’t have that appeal it used to have. Like most powerful phrases, we tend to overuse them and they eventually lose their pizzazz. The beauty of...

A WELCOMING SPACE

A WELCOMING SPACE How well do you respond to strangers?   Let’s say I give you a cup of water, and you say “Thank you”, and my response back is, “You’re welcome.” – what my response is actually saying is, “You are...

STRIVING (sigh, sooo exhausting)

(this video is an intro to the article) I was having dinner with a dear friend of mine. I knew something was a bit “off” in me. She summarized it. “Karen, you’re striving.” She was right. It got me thinking… IS THERE ‘GOOD STRIVING’ AND...

FEAR LOSES. STRATEGY WINS.

  May 1st marked my three year anniversary of leaving my role at John Fluevog Shoes, and with the support of my two kids, I bid farewell to Vancouver, packed up my car and drove to San Diego to pursue my life dream. The closing of a chapter began when a Vancouver...

MOLLIFY: the olive branch

The “DO ANGRY WELL” Series.  Part 3 of 3   I was getting gas in Old Town San Diego and the pumps have tv screens for advertisements, music or ‘fun facts’. I look at the screen and it says “Word Of The Day” and the word MOLLIFY appeared. Mollify: to...

DO ANGRY WELL (part one)

Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. – Aristotle...

DETERMINATION & THE PINK UMBRELLA

​ It was in the early morning of a cold, rainy November when I drove by an elementary school.  I looked to my left and an adorable, sweet human caught my attention.   I pulled the car over and watched in silence, with only the faint sweeping sound of windshield...

PLEASANTLY SURPRISED

We are ever evolving and changing. The dictionary defines evolving: “to develop or achieve gradually.” How recent has it been since you found out something new about yourself? In 2015, I was invited to a Strengthsfinder seminar that the Gumpert Foundation...

The Purpose of Daydreaming

A passerby saw a child staring into an open field.  Amused, he asked, “What are you looking at?”.  Without hesitation, the child replied, “My castle.” When I was a little girl, I lived in a big world of imagination.  I didn’t need...

Do Big Black Dogs Bite?

So if a dog bites you ONCE, will you never trust a dog again? Well, sometimes that’s exactly what happens. Let’s pretend you’re two years old and a big black dog bites you.  That’s quite scary and traumatic for a little toddler.  Without fully being aware, that little...

“What are you hearing me say?”

  The best part of coaching are those magical moments. We’re engaged in dialogue, the conversation is flowing and I’ll point out important information based on what the individual is verbalizing.   So, what exactly is the magical moment? After I share my...

THE WINTER OF BUSINESS

“I write probably 80 percent of my stuff over the winter.” –Bob Seger Using the metaphor of ‘seasons’, every business, no matter what type, goes through a winter season. Spring is fresh and new.  Summer is vibrant and steady.  Fall is transition and...

WHEN EXPERIENCING LOSS

    The loss of a life. The loss of love. The loss of a job. The loss of health. The loss of money. The loss of friendship. The loss of a game. Why is loss so painful? It creates a grief in our hearts that can feel unbearable, overwhelming, deflating,...

INNOVATORS SPIT ON WORRY AND CARRY ON

  What makes us shrink back or hold back? When I’m hanging out with my wisest friends (who are 70 years and older), I notice a common occurrence: they are less affected by circumstances. They carry an acceptance about where they are, who they’re with and what...

KNOW YOUR STRESSORS

  Taking inventory of our internal well-being on a regular basis is fundamental to healthy living. When we go through a challenging time, a big change, an unexpected disruption (or a planned one), it’s a good idea to ask ourselves, “Heyyyyy youuuu...

WHEN COMPANIES BEGIN TO CRUMBLE

      So, you want to grow your business? Great! Then whatever you do, pay attention to the internal workings of your company! Overlooking your infrastructure is like biting into a rotten apple. Looks juicy and delicious on the outside, but on the...

CAREFREE or CARELESS?

  (photo by: Alex Pham)   I have a memory. I was a little girl and my mom was going to the grocery store. I asked her if my friend and I could go to the park and play in the wading pool while she went to get groceries. She agreed and dropped us off. When we...

MAKE AN 80% DECISION

    MAKE AN 80% DECISION The difference between a great decision and a mediocre one is one word: doubt. I’d rather make a great decision and be 80% successful with 20% room for error, than to second-guess my decision, doubt it and then do 100% n.o.t.h.i.n.g!...

WE ARE NOT IMMUNE TO HOPE

  We are not immune to hope. Regardless of your circumstances, you will find a whisper of hope. We must find this hope in every aspect of our lives. Never dismiss hope. If there’s any topic I want to petition it would be in contending for the richness of living a...

THE THEME FOR YOUR YEAR. WHAT IS IT?

photo by:  Sylvain Guiheneue THE THEME FOR YOUR YEAR. WHAT IS IT?   Every year I present myself a theme. I reflect in December, in preparation for the year to come, and ponder what is the resource and gift I want the new year to bring me. I’ve been doing this for...

RECIPROCITY

    When strolling on the beach it’s not uncommon to greet someone with a smile and be greeted in return with a smile. A word describing this kind of interaction is reciprocity. Yesterday, I needed to be focused and get some work done efficiently. Sometimes...