Is Unicorn Love Real?

Two best friends, Green and Purple, are hanging out at their favourite local cafe.

“Do you unicorn love me?”, asks Green.

“I don’t even know what that means?  You’re my friend, I love you.” responds Purple.

“But what about unicorn love?  Do you believe it exists?”, Green continues with the probing.

Purple is not amused, “Unicorns?  No, I don’t.  They’re fairy tale animals.  They don’t exist. They’re not real.”

“Ok.. so.. you love me as a friend, but you don’t unicorn love me.”  Green concludes.

“Yes, I love you.  You’re my friend. Stop with the unicorn nonsense.” exclaims Purple.

They sit still sipping their coffees; Green likes lattes while Purple likes double espresso.

Green whispers, “Have you ever considered unicorn love?”

“Are we really having this conversation? No, I haven’t!  I’ve never considered unicorn love. You’re being ridiculous!”, Purple is obviously annoyed.

Startled by Purple’s burst of passion, “Why would you think it’s ridiculous?”

“Because there’s no such thing as unicorn love!”, Purple becomes adamant that the conversation is over.

As they leave the coffee shop, Green has an idea:  “Let’s look for unicorn love sightings!”

Purple sighs, “You are unbelievable, my friend.  Persistent, stubborn and, what’s with this whimsical stuff?  If we do these so-called sightings for one hour, will you then drop it?”

They stroll through the neighbourhood and reach the grocery store parking lot.  A gentleman is pushing a cart full of food.  The bag of potatoes and the case of soda  begin to slide off the bottom rack.  Suddenly, two teenagers ran over to catch the food from falling to the ground.  “Sir, sir, your food is falling!”  They push the items back on to the rack.  “Thank you for your help,” replied the gentleman.  They smile and the kids run off.

Green says, “There it is!  Did you see it?  Unicorn love!”

Purple responds, “The teenagers helping the guy?  I didn’t see a unicorn.”

Surprised, Green says, “How could you not have seen it?  It was right in front of us.”

They continue walking.

Green smiles, “Look around you Purple, it’s everywhere.  Isn’t it spectacular?”

A family is having a picnic lunch under the oak tree, two lovers are walking hand-in-hand laughing, a community of friends are picking up garbage, a nurse is strolling with a patient in a wheelchair, and a young barber is cutting hair for some of the people living on the streets.

Green ponders, “Maybe we’re too preoccupied with our own lives that we overlook unicorn love sightings.  It’s all around us, Purple.  We just need to stop and look.  It doesn’t take my imagination to see it. I only need to take my eyes off myself.  It’s everywhere, Purple! I only need to look for it.”

Purple stops walking.  “Do you mean unconditional love?”

“What, no, unicorn love.” says Green.

Purple’s eyes brighten, “Oh Green, yes, there are many times I unicorn love you.  I don’t always do a good job with it, but, my dear friend, yes I sure do.  At least, I try to.”

“I knew it, Purple.  I always knew it.”, Green’s shoulders broaden and they continue to walk arm in arm.

Purple laughs, “Let’s keep looking for these sightings.  An hour isn’t enough.”

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The following thoughts are the inspiration behind writing this article:

Several weeks ago, I started to write in my journal the word “unconditional”.  As I was printing each letter, I smiled to myself and added the letters “I” and “R”  (see screenshot image)

 

It got me thinking.

One of San Diego’s most world renowned psychotherapists, Robert A Johnson, wrote about the word “love”.  I like what he says:

“Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one.  This is indicative of the poverty of awarenessor emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling.  Eskimos have 30 words for snow, because it is a life-and-death matter to them to have exact information about the element they live with so intimately.  If we had a vocabulary of 30 words for love…we would immediately be richer and more intelligent in this human element so close to our hearts.” – Robert A. Johnson.

When we say, “I love pizza” and “I love my mom”, we aren’t referring to the same type of love.  At times, love is a generic word we use casually.  Have we watered it down?  Has it lost its profundity?  I asked my dad his interpretation of love.  This is what he wrote to me:

“Love is the highest expression of human emotions, since it gives to someone else worth and notability. To use love as a feeling for an object is a misunderstanding of the term. Such love is an expression of self pleasure: the object pleases me only.” – my father, Robert Thrall

1. What if we spent more time looking for ‘unicorn love’ sightings?
2. If I replace eyes looking at me to eyes looking around me, would could be the positive impact?  

Food for thought.

 

– Karen Thrall